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After the birth of my first baby, I was determined to avoid the mommy trap and by the time she was 5 months old I lost all of the baby weight then more. Yay!
So when I was pregnant with my second baby I knew I could l do the same thing and cut myself some slack. Until“slack” turned into 2 years of not eating right or exercising resulting in an additional 30 lbs weight gain on top of the baby weight. Well crap.
I’ve recently decided it was time for a change though and, after few false starts, have finally hit a good rhythm.
If you’re in the same boat I was then check out the changes I’ve made to help pull me bounce back from mommy burnout.
7 Ways to Recover from Mom Burnout
1. Start Faking It
No- I don’t mean in the bedroom.
You’re self-esteem may be at an all time low which can suck.
Know what I do at these times? I fake it until I make it.
No more self-deprecating talk or looking in the mirror poking and grabbing at the body parts you don’t like. Look in the mirror and find your best quality and focus on that. Then remind yourself that all of your other parts should be loved just as much.
Often times, changing the way we talk to ourselves can be a great first step in changing how we see ourselves.
2. Don't Hold Out on Yourself
Stop putting off everything you want to do until you lose weight or your hair looks better or etc etc etc. Do it now. Schedule family photos, go out on a date night, buy some new clothes. Start treating yourself better and you’ll start feeling better
3. Experiment to Succeed
If you don’t exercise then now is a great time to start. Exercise is also one of the best ways to get the endorphins flowing and help improve mood.
If you don’t know what kind of exercise you like then now is the time to experiment. Many gyms will let you try classes and workouts for free. Try a little bit of everything until you find something you’ll stick with.
Try a little bit of everything until you find something you'll stick with
If you already know what kind of exercise you like then reach out to a friend, family member, or even a stranger in a FB group. Make yourself accountable to them to back yourself into a corner to start exercising again.
4. Write Your Goals Down… and a Reward for When You Reach It
Studies have shown that writing your goals down can make you up to 3 times more likely to reach them. That’s all good and gravy but the best part of reaching a goal is feeling accomplished and celebrating it.
If you’re anything like me, you probably reward yourself with food but instead of celebrating with food, celebrate with something (anything) else you enjoy. Pedicure, golf, swimming, reading, sleeping- whatever you want. You earned it!
5. Put Yourself on Your List
We’ve all heard the advice “put yourself first.” But let’s be honest- sometimes that’s just not going to happen. But, make it a goal just to put yourself somewhere on the list.
Sit down, write out a list of everything that has to be taken care of, put yourself on the list, and stick to it.
If you’re #3 on your list and you’re ok with that then awesome. Just stick with that and do whatever you need to do to refill your cup when you get to #3 (aka you) on your list.
6. Reconnect with Old Friends
Reconnect with old friends, family members you’ve lost touch with. Connections are important but can often get lost in the hustle and bustle of everyday life so make sure you take the time to connect with people who don’t sing Paw Patrol 30 times a day.
And don’t wait for the right time to call- it’s not going to come. Just call to text or message- your real friends will get it and just be happy you reached out.
7. Get Back to Nature
Now you may be thinking “I am not a Nature person.” But if that’s the care this is one of those times to go against what feels natural. It’s easy to forget when we’re constantly inside that we are animals too and animals belong in nature. Try and get out of the house and breathe in the fresh air and bask in the sun for at least 30 minutes to get a nice hit of mood boosting endorphins and vitamin D. Not only will you feel better but you’ll look good too with a little bit of color in your cheeks.
Mom Burn Out is Real but You Can Recover!
We’ve all heard it but I’ll say it again- you have to take care of you especially when you spend your time taking care of others. It’s not selfish- it’s a necessity so treat it like one. The role of Mommy may be one of the best roles you play in life but it will never be the only role so take care of all the other parts of you too.
Want a few tips for getting your day started off on the right foot (aka with a little self care)? Check out my other article on Essential Oil use in the morning.